It takes two to tango
If you've been married for 6 months or more you've discovered something.
You and your partner have a little bit different "dancing" styles.
No I don't mean out at the club :-)
Well maybe that too.
But I mean in terms of being close and taking some distance.
You feel like being close and (let's just say he for now) he feels liek being separate.
Then he feels like being close and you feel like being distant.
Now you may have made the wrong conclusion.
Happens all the time.
You may have concluded "men only want to be close when they want sex."
Or you may have conluded "women only want to be close when they want cuddling."
Or something like that. Let's not spend too much time coming up with examples,
Remember though... Forest and not trees.
Don't jump to "problems."
Don't think "we're incompatible after all."
Instead think this:
It takes two to tango.
You are different from each other... a bit.
Not as much as you think.
You both want the same things.
You both want Relationship.
Just in slightly different ways and at slightly different volumes and slightly different times.
All I'm saying is don't jump to conclusions.
Relax, take a deep breath, and realize that your marriage, the core of your relationship is what counts.
Use what we talk about as the Creative Attitude.
Talk about it.
The minute you start "competing" it's game over.
The dance won't be a "tango," it will be a "tangle."
Slow down a bit. Take it easy.
People have different ways of dancing.
Many ways of dancing is what makes the world interesting.
I'll show you how to answer ALL these questions the right way... the permanently enjoyable way.
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- Dr. Max
