You are helping out.

You might think you are helping the other person to 

think

feel

understand

get friends

solve work problems

... and it may or may not be something the other person ACTUALLY WANTS!

They might be afraid to tell you so.

You might call them a pansy and they should tell you to stop it, but if you were married to you do you really think you'd say anything?

You'd be hurt.

So you have to take the initiative yourself.

ASK PERMISSION BEFORE IMPOSING HELP

That might sound odd but it's the right way to have a relationship with another human being.

Here's much more on the topic of the right way of having a relationship

"Live well, do well and be well"

Dr. Max